GREAT NECK, N.Y. In the midst of the good, bad and ugly content found on social media is a parenting tactic that a clinical psychologist is trying to stop.
Rather than just punishing children in their own homes for their misbehaviors, many parents are taking to social media to post humiliating pictures and videos of their children for the Internet to see.
Dr. Shefali Tsabary created two videos with the accompanying hashtag #endshame that illustrate public shaming and to asks Internet users to help end the shame.
Mom, dad, how would you like it if you made a mistake at work and your boss shaved your hair off and posted it on the companys website? Dr. Shefali said in the first video.
The video continues to show pictures of kids holding humiliating signs that explain their wrongdoing, some standing at the side of the road so passing cars can see.
In the second video, Dr. Shefali informs viewers how they can act now in the campaign.
Shaming never works, connection is the only way, she said in the video. Shaming kills the spirit, connection enlivens it.
Dr. Shefali told TODAY the video was primarily spurred by 13-year-old Izabel Laxamana, who committed suicide after her dad publicly shamed her in a YouTube video.
According to the New York Daily News, police said her suicide wasnt related to the punishment and her father wasnt responsible for posting the video.
I had been seeing these shaming videos online for years, and I'd always found them to be stomach-turning," Dr. Shafali told TODAY. When I realized just how devastating of an impact they were having on our children with (Laxamana's) suicide, I finally decided I had to act."
A number of child and family activists joined together to invite others to sign a petition to #StopShamingKids on social media, the New York Daily News reported.
Shame and control is not the dogma anymore, Dr. Shafali told TODAY. It may have been the dogma years ago, but today, the movement is about conscious, connected, deep, authentic parenting."
Dr. Shafali acknowledged that she didnt blur out the faces of the children who had been shamed, but said chose to post them in order to prove shaming had happened.
According to a Parenting article on online shaming, Dr. Gail Gross, Ph.D., Ed.D., M.Ed, said shaming can change a childs development and cause anxiety and depression later in life.
Rather than just punishing children in their own homes for their misbehaviors, many parents are taking to social media to post humiliating pictures and videos of their children for the Internet to see.
Dr. Shefali Tsabary created two videos with the accompanying hashtag #endshame that illustrate public shaming and to asks Internet users to help end the shame.
Mom, dad, how would you like it if you made a mistake at work and your boss shaved your hair off and posted it on the companys website? Dr. Shefali said in the first video.
The video continues to show pictures of kids holding humiliating signs that explain their wrongdoing, some standing at the side of the road so passing cars can see.
In the second video, Dr. Shefali informs viewers how they can act now in the campaign.
Shaming never works, connection is the only way, she said in the video. Shaming kills the spirit, connection enlivens it.
Dr. Shefali told TODAY the video was primarily spurred by 13-year-old Izabel Laxamana, who committed suicide after her dad publicly shamed her in a YouTube video.
According to the New York Daily News, police said her suicide wasnt related to the punishment and her father wasnt responsible for posting the video.
I had been seeing these shaming videos online for years, and I'd always found them to be stomach-turning," Dr. Shafali told TODAY. When I realized just how devastating of an impact they were having on our children with (Laxamana's) suicide, I finally decided I had to act."
A number of child and family activists joined together to invite others to sign a petition to #StopShamingKids on social media, the New York Daily News reported.
Shame and control is not the dogma anymore, Dr. Shafali told TODAY. It may have been the dogma years ago, but today, the movement is about conscious, connected, deep, authentic parenting."
Dr. Shafali acknowledged that she didnt blur out the faces of the children who had been shamed, but said chose to post them in order to prove shaming had happened.
According to a Parenting article on online shaming, Dr. Gail Gross, Ph.D., Ed.D., M.Ed, said shaming can change a childs development and cause anxiety and depression later in life.
